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5 Ways To Make Friends and Avoid Enemies

If you prefer success instead of failure, here’s what to do. Over the past few years an epidemic of rudeness has swept Nepal. Maybe you would say, it is being progressive, but it is making you lose friends. Here’s how to stop this viral disease.

1. Acknowledge Peopleacknowledge-people

Answer the phone. Return phone calls. Listen carefully when people talk to you. According to NTC, one call is 59 seconds long. Even if you cut the phone in 4 seconds, you are charged the rate. Be an active participant in conversations. Never use your cell phone when with others, even if you are just having ‘chiya and churot.’ Give the person you are with the complete attention. Remember: acknowledgment satisfies a basic human need.

2. Show Respect

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Use people’s names when talking to them. Never invent nicknames or make fun of people’s names. Be on time, it is harder when the entire country is not punctual.  Treat friends as if they were smarter than you. Let others speak first. Remember: respect is powerful because it gives people dignity.

3. Compliment

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Seek the good in everything. Avoid gossip and people who gossip. Remind friends about successes they had, even if decades ago. When you have school reunion, complement each other’s success.  Focus on what works and what went well. Remember: warmth, attracts people.

4. Be Positive

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Master optimism. Accept change and new ideas. Always focus on success. Expect the best to happen. Think in terms of the future and how you can make it better. Use positive (or at least neutral) words. Remember: leaders sell hope.

5. Be Mature

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Manage your emotions. Speak softly. Seek solutions. Let other people do well. Let people tell you things that you know. Let other people win. Share information. ‘College bunk hanne din haru sakkisakyo.’ Remember: mature behavior creates trust.